Sensual Stasha - Guided Masturbation Expert

Moving

2005-10-19T15:19:00.000-04:00

I will not be available for calls for a while. I am in the process of moving to a new place, and I'm not sure how long it will take to get settled.Take care, and don't miss me too much while I'm gone!

Panties

2005-09-28T16:54:00.000-04:00

In the summertime, I usually don't wear panties. When I'm wearing a skirt, it's particularly refreshing to have the wind blow against my groin, rustling the little patch of hair to tickle me.
In the winter, I wear them to add a layer of warmth to my body.

But what is the point of panties?

Bras help support so that ladies don't end up having breasts that look more like capital W's instead of a nice rounded and short w as we grow older. They also keep shirts from brushing against our nipples, causing those little capillaries to harden us. Bras also take away some of the movement, where the flesh bounces a little less for watchers.

But what about panties? What is their use? I can only think of two in particular. It's the way they look on a woman. To see the elastic pushing into the skin with a binding power against the flesh, where the material holds the contents so matter-of-factly, the eye begins to beg for more. It's the gift-wrapping of one the Seven Wonders of the World. And the smell of arousal, held in its crouch can be unnerving for some boys.

Other than that... I'm not quite sure what purpose panties serve. If someone has an idea, I'd love to hear it!

Tribute Buttons

2005-09-26T16:17:00.000-04:00

Okay, I've finally finished up my tribute buttons to the way I'd like them to be. They are as follows:

$5 offering - 4 erotic poems - Chastity Belt, B.O.B. (A Tribute to My Vibrator), Casualties and Formalities, and Written Blow Job -

$20 offering - A peek at My Breasts and Butt -

$50 offering - 9 Erotic poems about My past sexual Partners, 8 other erotic poems and Erotic Excerpts from over 15 other poems- 18 pages -

$100 offering - A peek at My Breasts and Butt, 9 Erotic poems about My past sexual Partners, all of My unedited erotic poems that are not published in My book, including My past sexual Partners, learning about My sexuality, and other experiences - 37 pages -

$250 offering - A peek at My Breasts and Butt, 9 Erotic poems about My past sexual Partners, all of My unedited erotic poems that are not published in My book, including My past sexual Partners, learning about My sexuality, and other experiences - 37 pages - Plus, find out my pen name and where to buy my book and my other website! -

So, tribute Me, and enjoy My world!

Hentai Movies

2005-09-25T14:45:00.000-04:00

I remember the first time I watched a semi-hentai movie. It was Wicked City, movie where one woman had a snapper that would break off any members that entered it. I found it intriguing. Then I watched Legend of the Overfiend, and many of the scenes made me hot and bothered, where those demons would break out many members and penetrate every part of the ladies. Now, I know those aren't solely hentai films, but they made me fall in love with these type of movies.
I found out recently that I'm not the only one. Many of my friends mention that they got turned on by these movies, too. I remember the first time I brought the subject up to a lover. He thought I was such a wierdo! But, I've realized I'm not the only one.

On another note, I re-recorded my best guided masturbation recording today. I think it's a lot better than the original, because I was still a new operator when I made it. The new recording is Lesson #1 in its entirety.

Site of the Day: Cartoon Sex Online

Penis Sizes

2005-09-20T13:48:00.000-04:00

So, I thought I'd bring up the topic of penis sizes. Guys crack me up when it comes to talking about the size of their cocks. Most say they are well hung. Oh yeah! Haven't you ever heard the saying that if they say they are so many inches, subtract 2 inches, and that's their real size? It's true, from what I've come across. I'm a size queen, though. My first sexual partner was quite endowed, and I bled the first six times we had sex. I stayed with him for over 2 years, so I grew accustomed to the large cock.

Now, it IS true about larger guys. A lot of girls are terrified by a big one. They can hurt. They can hit the cervix (just like hitting a guy in the balls). OUCH! Big guys deal with that a lot, so it's hard for them to get ass sometimes. But I still love 'em...

Hey, since they all know our breast size before they get us in bed, I think all men should get tattoos on their forearms, saying what their length and girth is. That way, once the pants come off, women don't have to be like, "What am I supposed to do with THAT?"

Word of secret advice for the guys: If a woman doesn't ask, don't tell. There's nothing worse than overexaggerating yourself to get the girl in bed, and then, when the pants come off, she's disappointed. And don't go around, warning about a small one either, unless you WANT some humiliation. If someone told me he was small before I ever entered the bedroom with him, his chances would be slim to none. So, just keep it a mystery. Isn't that more alluring, anyway?

I made a recording where I answer certain questions that many men seem to have on their minds. The questions I answer are as follows: younger or older men, what is a good-sized cock (not small penis humiliation), should I have a threesomes while in a relationship, how does insertion feel to a woman, finding her G-spots and a few other sexual tips.
or call 1-800-TO-FLIRT ext. 0557870

Site of the Day: Shemales Paradise

Rules of My Sessions

2005-09-16T14:48:00.000-04:00

I figured since I hadn't put the rules to some of my listings up, I'd do it now.

For Guided Masturbation:
I'm looking for good, submissive guys who just want someone to guide them through their strokes. I can give the best guided masturbation around. I love involving new and interesting techniques to see the response I get. Please have two hands available. I am NOT looking for anyone who tries to persuade me to reenact a fantasy or tries to get me to come. This is about you, getting off, not me.
If you have a particular fetish, let me know, and I will consider using it if you become a regular caller. You must do everything as I say. ALL I DO IS GUIDE YOU THROUGH MASTURBATION, NOTHING ELSE! When you call, make sure you let me know what number session we are on so I don't repeat my techniques too much.
or call 1-800-TO-FLIRT ext. 0537788

For My BDSM sessions, I've changed from doing chastity sessions to forced intoxication sessions. Please note that I only do alcohol intoxication, not other drugs!
Intoxicated boys are My toys. I love to force them to get totally inebriated, so they are totally uninhibited, confessing all their dark secrets to Me. They are so messed up, they don't even realize I am taking advantage of them! Once I have heard enough secrets and blubbering, I will decide to do with them as I see fit. I may be totally disgusted with them as they talk and deny them of any type of satisfaction! If they entertain me, I will end their stupor with a spray of hot pleasure!
Forced intoxication takes more than 15 minutes, so make sure you have plenty of minutes to use.
or call 1-800-TO-FLIRT ext. 0600441

Rules for all of my listings:
DO NOT HANG UP AFTER YOU COME. You can say your good-byes quickly but properly.

Site of the Day: Adult Movie Matrix

Sites of the Day

2005-09-07T14:55:00.000-04:00

Awww... I think my sweet boys must miss me! I've gotten quite a few emails, asking, "Where are ya?" Well, I've had more than my share of busyness lately. My Niteflirt account won't let me read half of my emails.

Sometimes life can be a roller-coaster of events and emotions, and either we can ride them or we can fight the undefeated changes. In my opinion, most of us live for excitement anyway. In one way or another, we crave change, as long as it doesn't jeopardize our comfort or security. Once it does that, it becomes destructive, am I right?

Can ya tell I love to go off on tangents?

So, in the midst of my searches, I have come across some cool websites. So, I've added sites of the day. Please note that I will not promote any site that I would not myself use. These are sites, handpicked by me.

I love September. It's such a gorgeous month. Fall is my favorite time of the year, with the crisp smell and turning leaves that decorate the air. Strange that nature is so beautiful even in its death. It's before Nature's sleeping time.

Just a quick poem:

Spring = Attraction

Summer = Sex

Fall = Afterglow

Winter = Sleep

Strange little piece, don't ya think? I'm such a queer, but I'd have it no other way!

Site of the Day:

The Compassion from Katrina

2005-08-31T23:06:00.000-04:00

To all the Hurricane Katrina victims:
You are in my thoughts, and I send you psychic flowers and comfort.

Disasters such as this expose the angels and unknown heros of this world. After seeing the devastation on television of men paddling on doors made into rafts and neighborhoods resembling the bottom of cookie jars, a woman cannot help but cry. I wish I could say I was surprised at all the aid offered right now, but compassion has seemed to run rampant since 9/11 and the tsunami in India. It's a beautiful, melancholic reminder that the masses who are strong will help the weak. I wish there was more of myself that I could give, a piece of inner strength for those who have lost everything. It makes us all realize how easily comfort and peace can be ripped away from our fingers. If such turmoil has changed our perspective at all, I hope we all realize the beauty in a loved one's smile, the calming laughter of a friend, and the generosity of a stranger. It's impossible for me not to be moved.

Take care, everyone.

Site of the Day:
American Red Cross

Lifetime Dream Accomplished

2005-08-30T15:34:00.000-04:00

I have finally had a lifetime dream of mine accomplished! I wrote a poetry book, and now, it's available for sale, so I've been marketing that in the past few days. Of course, I'm still humming and hawing whether I should make this information available to callers, since that would be mixing of my businesses, but I just wanted to let my boys know what I've been up to lately.

I will be back on the phones by Thursday.

Lifetime Accomplishment #1 - Completed. Now, what were some of my other lifetime accomplishments? Gotta think about that!

Site of the day: Leather Lingerie

Learning About My Sexuality

2005-08-26T14:13:00.000-04:00

I had a call last week where he and I got on the subject of exploring our sexuality when we were growing up. It was an extreme turn-on, not because it was about being a child but because of our own curiousity in sexuality and secrets that many would probably never reveal to their lovers. As children, we are very curious creatures and will play such things as "doctor" to explore this part of ourselves. I, for one, felt very guilty about the things I did as a child with other children or peeking at other family member's bodies, but it is part of growing up and learning about ourselves and others.
So, I decided to present 6 poems I've written about learning of my sexuality as a child. I have some about peeking at other family members, playing doctor, and other intimate moments as a child. No one these are about having sex as a child, and I do not condone in any way to putting children in sexual situations. These are just my experiences growing up. These 6 poems are only available here for $3 if anyone is curious!

Site of the Day:
Fine Erotic Photography by METArt

My Banner

2005-08-24T13:46:00.000-04:00

Yay! I finally finished my first banner! It took me a while to do, but I figured it out! Hopefully, I'll get to do more as time permits!

Site of the Day: The Amateur Lounge

Breaking the Cookie Cutter

2005-08-18T16:34:00.000-04:00

I mentioned once before why I started doing phone sex, but I didn't go into details. Why? Well, to be quite honest, I was told by a colleague that men don't really care about the woman behind the phone, they only care about getting their rocks off. I bought into the advice for quite some time. But, I've decided that I am who I am, and why do I only have to be sexual? There are so many parts of me that make me sexy, not just how I can perform and my own past sexual experiences. Maybe I'm just a dreamer, but I don't think phone sex has to be all about creating a fantasy for the man on the other side of the phone. I am seductive, just the way I am, and seduction is half the fun of sex anyway, isn't it?

So, I'm breaking from the cookie cutter. I'm not going to give the boys what they want to hear, I'm going to give them the truth. This does not mean I'll reveal every part of my life, but I will share thoughts that may have nothing to do with sex or business. This is my diary. I never had much of a problem with exposing my soul to readers. I have more of a problem exposing my soul to my loved ones. Now, don't get me wrong, there's plenty of friends I have that I can be totally open with, but the majority of loved ones, I'm not.

Anyway, why did I start PSOing? Well, about two years ago, I worked as a pencil pusher for a corporation. I had a wonderful life, living the single life in my own apartment, driving an antique car in amazing condition, and enjoying weekend get-aways. Then, I began to get migraines. I began to search for other ways to support myself, and I found this avenue of business intriguing.

I was extremely sexual myself, and my friends and I talked about sex constantly, so why not do it for money? So, I went with a dispatch company, where I took all kinds of calls. I did pretty good with most of the other calls, but some of the fantasies would make me sick to my stomach. I didn't want to lie about my real sexual escapades. If a man asked me if I had screwed a dog, I'm not gonna answer, yes, even if it is a fantasy. Just because I'm providing a service does not mean I have to cater myself to fit their fantasy, right? Maybe I'm too much of a brat, maybe I just won't compromise myself.
Anyway, I got my own place. I was so excited, thinking I could be independent again, just because men want to talk to me, to provide them with some sexual moment and some non-judgemental intimacy. I can make each man feel a little better about being a man and growing more respect for the women around them. Remind them that each woman is beautiful in their own way.

I'm so sappy, aren't I? hee hee What do you expect? I'm a woman!

Site of the Day: All Girls DVDs

Chastity Training

2005-08-15T17:40:00.000-04:00

I have trained in real life as a dominatrix, however I tend to only do spanking and bondage sessions, and neither of those are easy to pull off on the phone. What do you say? "Okay, tie yourself up or spank yourself." It's just a hard thing to control over the phone, since I'm not there in person.
Since I have been doing phone sex, My sadism has grown. Don't these boys know that they could never have Me in real life, and I am not their toy? They are My toys. So, I have decided to start chastity sessions. I love a little tease and denial to control a boy to My liking.

What is chastity training? Well, for me it means that I hold the key to when you cum. You will not be able to cum unless I say you can. Of course, I may still tease you without allowing your orgasm. It should be loads of fun for me!

I am only interested in boys that are serious about chastity sessions. I am not interested in any fantasies. If one of My boys wants Me to venture into another fetish that he might have, he must show his devotion to Me by buying Me more books on his fetish for research on how to proceed over the phone, and I will add the fetish as I see fit. If I don't remember someone when they call Me, then I guess they haven't made a good enough impression on Me.

Site of the Day: Bondage Toys

Orgasms

2005-08-14T15:57:00.000-04:00

I was a good little girl! I never even had sex until I was 18! However, I had my first orgasm when I received oral sex the first time. I remember thinking, "That feels really good, but why can't I catch my breath?" I never even masturbated til I was 18, so I didn't receive my first orgasm from myself.

I am a rare case. 99% of the time, I can orgasm before a man does. I've even had an orgasm while blowing a guy off, and he wasn't touching me! I was lucky. When I hear about women who have never climaxed, I feel so sorry for them and wonder if their lack of orgasm is from society's stereotype that if you explore your sexuality, you must be a whore. I'm not sure why, but I never let that stereotype confine me.

I believe that at times, I "black out" during those intense moments of arousal. I have no thoughts about what my hips are doing, what is coming out of my mouth, or how good a time the other lover is having. At the moment, none of that matters.

I have three vibrators, a dildo, whips, paddles, anal beads, and countless other toys. I have broken two vibrators (one from screwing on the top too tight and the other from trying to use it in the shower.) I love my Clitopatra! She's almost just like the Rabbit.

But, no, it has not taken away my desire for a man. Real cocks are warm and unpredictable. I use toys as a fun alternative like if he comes before me and I grow horns from no orgasm or when I need my oil changed, and my BF isn't around. However, it can never outdo a man. It's nice to just have warm hands on you and kisses on the neck. Toys cannot do that.

But, I LOVE toys, for myself and to add pleasure to my own bedroom escapades. There's no need for sex to be boring and predictable. Do you want to know what type of toys I'd like to add to my arsenal? Check out my naughty wishlist, and you'll see! I love toys so much, I wrote a tribute to my vibrator called B.O.B. It's only $2.

Do you want to hear me with my Clitopatra? Want to hear real orgasms while I watch porn?
or call 1-800-TO-FLIRT, extension 0546699

Site of the Day: Internet Hookups

Poem: We Are the PSOs

2005-08-11T10:59:00.000-04:00

If anyone knows me well at all, they know I'm a sucker for poetry. I write it as much as possible. I haven't been inspired as much of late, but creative writing comes in waves. Sometimes, I'll write 3 in a day. Sometimes, I'll write only one in two months. Muses come and go, and there's nothing the writer can do about it. If I force it, I will end up with a piece that portrays more of a constipated bowel movement than an inspired piece of art! So, to remind myself that I am still a poet, I figured I'd put one on here that I wrote about PSOs in general. All of us are so different from each other, but that's what makes the world interesting, isn't it? Of course, some of it is a little tongue-in-cheek, but I'm sure you can handle it. :smiles:

So, without further adeu, here is my poem.

We Are the PSOs
(c) 2005 Copyright by Stasha Entertainment. All Rights Reserved.

We are the rich girls gone bad,
Ex-strippers,
Single mothers,
Preacher's daughters,
Or fallen success stories.

We get paid
To open ourselves
Allowing strangers to shove their soul
Into us
By the minute.

We are survivalists
Women who are independent
Of our emotions
And our men...
Client
Client...client
Potential client
Broke loser who thinks he can have our time for free...
"I'm better than that."

We are the PSOs
With an intricate personality
Of therapy and fantasy

We are the goddesses
Of a male religion.

On a different note, I had a caller yesterday ask me to give him chastity sessions. I'm thinking of giving it a try with him, since he's shown his devotion to me with spoiling. It's a lot easier to dominate a person in life than over the phone. You never really know if they are being a good subby! Of course, I have ideas to determine whether they've BS'd me or not, but I guess I really won't know until I've become more experienced in the area.

Site of the Day:

Money, money, money

2005-08-09T17:59:00.000-04:00

For those guys that like to spoil, you may call for my stroking game for sugardaddies. It's a game where I use all my techniques in one sitting (if the guy can handle all the procedures without blowing) for a fee for each technique. All the rules are explained here. or call 1-800-TO-FLIRT ext. 0546678. It's $2.19 per minute, and it's a 2 minute recording, so if you are a new customer, you can listen to it for free! But if you play the game, expect to spend at least $200 by the end of it.

As for the "other" boys, I have this recording. It's such a turn-on to rape that money from your hand while you get the honor of hearing my heels, click on my hardwood floor. or call 1-800-TO-FLIRT ext. 0546589. This recording is $4.99 a minute, and it's a 4 minute recording.

Site of the Day: Gay Toys & DVDs

Call Button

2005-08-07T13:48:00.000-04:00

You see my call button? Well, it will tell you when I'm available for calls and when I'm not. I tend to leave my alerts on a lot. This means that you can try to call me, and 9 times out of 10, I will be able to take your call. The reason I have alerts on so much is because I may not feel like advertising at that moment that I am available for calls, although I am available. It may mean that I'm in the middle of doing something, but most times, I can stop what I'm doing to take the call. So, if you see my alerts on, please feel free to try me.

Site of the Day: Pure Group Sex

Best Guided Masturbation

2005-08-02T17:25:00.000-04:00

Well, my migraines have subsided some, but I may still be a little loopy from my medicine! Anyway, I'll be back on the phones tonight.

If you are too shy to call me live for some guided masturbation, you may call my most praised recording. where I use techniques from live session #1. This recording is a guide through masturbation. I will ask you to do techniques that you have probably never experienced before. This will be the most pleasurable masturbation session you have ever had! Please make sure you are hard, have two hands available, and have your lotion (Olive oil preferably) all ready. New callers who click on it will get 3 free minutes to spend! or call 1-800-TO-FLIRT
ext. 0557932.

Site of the Day: Rub and Tug

Blow Job Recording

2005-07-30T17:24:00.000-04:00

I know lots of guys love oral sex. I love to go down on lovers, but my callers don't get that luxury. Every man I have ever gone down on literally says, "Good god, I had no idea! You give the best head of anyone I've ever had!" I shrug and say, "I know." with a sly smile. So, to hear exactly what I'd do, here's my recording. It's a $1.99 a minute for 4 minutes. or call 1-800-TO-FLIRT ext. 0546620

Need a cheaper version? I wrote a poem, vividly describing the whole act, too. It's $2.

I had three callers spoil me a little this week, and one of my sugardaddies gave me a nice chunk of change for the week. He said he has no use for the money, and he knows I appreciate every cent. They are all so sweet for spoiling me a little for last week's vacation and to help with bills. It proves there are still noble, chivalrous men out there.

Site of the Day: Gay Sugar Daddy

Connecting

2005-07-28T13:43:00.000-04:00

I had a wonderful guy who called me for a session, and we decided to chat before getting started. We ended up chatting for over an hour and never got down to "the dirty." It's always nice to meet a new writer and someone who can carry on an intelligent and inspiring conversation. He was a poet, like myself, so we had a lot in common.

I'm trying to decide whether to put more of my erotic poems available for purchase. If I was smart, I'd write more erotic stories about my experiences instead of writing poems, but that takes a lot more discipline and time.
I have written two poems for callers so far. One poem is called Chastity Belt. He loved chastity and worshipping women, and I wrote this for him. It's $2.
The other poem I wrote for a caller who sees himself more as a woman than a man. He used to make love to me as a lesbian. He was one of my first regular callers. After our last call (when he became a man again), I wrote this poem about it. It's called Casualties and Formalities and it's $1.

Site of the Day:

FAQ's

2005-07-26T21:21:00.000-04:00

I figured I'd answer some questions that many might have on their minds. So, here they are.

Why did you get started in the phone sex business? I actually first heard about PSOing back in 1996. My best friend's mother did it and was a live Domme. I was totally intrigued with the Domme thing and was trained for the lifestyle, but I never went through with a business in it (just kept it in the bedroom and with friends). She also got me to do a call. I let a man lick my bloody snatch, but he was so drunk, he couldn't even stay focused! My ex-boyfriend's mother re-suggested it. So, here I am! I've now been doing this since March 2005.
When someone asks what is your job, what do you say? I usually tell the truth. Believe it or not, I don't like to lie. The women kinda look down on it, but I always say, "Do you have another suggestion where I can make money, working at home? If so, please tell me." That usually shuts them up. The men LOVE it. They all ask me to give them a sample, and I say, "Not without paying me!" As for the under-agers, I just say I do computer stuff at home. My entire family and my boyfriend's family know what I do. I do not apologize for it, although most of them are strictly religious. No one else can pay my bills but me... and the sweet thangs that call me!
Since you have been in the phone sex lifestyle, do you feel sexier or more inferior? Has your perspective of men changed for the good or worse? How has it affected your personal relationships? Yes, I feel sexier. I like being an outlet. I feel honored to hear such dark secrets from strangers. And then get numerous "thank you's" and "you are wonderful's." It makes me feel like... Wonder Woman!!! I don't know if it has changed my perspective of men. I think it's just made me more aware. Has it affected my personal life? Yes. I've been allowing myself to partake in some of the fantasies I hadn't yet. I've also noticed myself, being more seductive and opening my man up to his own fetishes.
Is being a sex operator an easy job? NO!!! This job can be emotionally draining, but by god, if it doesn't keep your brain on point!!! Whoever said this was an easy job never actually worked a shift.
Are you in competition with other girls in your line of work? I look at it this way. In a lot of ways, we AREN'T competing with each other. A lot of us work for different companies. Now, the Niteflirt girls kind of compete, but not really. It all comes down to the preference of the callers. I am brown-haired and sweet as sugar. Some callers like blondes or redheads. So, the blondes and redheads aren't my competition, the brunettes are. Some like ebony or latino girls. I'm white. Some like hairy girls, some like BBW's, some like brats, some like older women, some like phone cams, some want a 99 cent girl, some want a $20 girl. None of these compete with me because I don't fit in their categories. I love to hear bi/gay fantasies. Other girls don't. So, you see, we are all very different. The variety of Niteflirt is what makes it so profitable. The ones that compete are the ones that have no original ideas of their own, and make a general "PSO template" and they end up competing with others who do the same. That's just my opinion. For instance, I am an erotic poet/writer. There are others on there that are too, but I just give them props for having the same personality as me! I can admire their work. We are all in this business to make money. Some customers will be happy, some won't. We can either learn from the ones that aren't happy and try to build on it, or we can go bashing others because of our own inadequacy. I like who I am, so I have no reason to bash anyone else. I'm too much of a "Peace, love and harmony" type gal.
Do you give specifics on your callers? We are in a business that is very CONFIDENTIAL! Now, I believe that any good PSO has records of her callers in case of stalkers and for good customer service, but we are like psychiatrists in the sense that we should be held to our confidentiality. Many callers gain a trust from their regular PSO's and will reveal who they are. They become vulnerable to telling their other secrets, so why not tell their personal information, too? I'm not saying that a PSO should EVER ask for this, but some callers do reveal it. A PSO who takes this information and uses it for their own advantage is a scumbucket. Clear and simple.
Why do guys call for phone sex? I think that many of these hubbys call because they have been "closed off" from their wives either in a sexual aspect (as to her being a prude or never giving it up) or an emotional one. It is a fantasy and the brain is the largest muscle used in sex, anyway. These guys become addicted because we offer a "safe" place. We do not judge, and he has no past with us. When it comes down to it, it is the "illusion" of having a new infatuation. Everyone loves the way they feel when they feel new and alive at the fact that someone is showing them attention and wants to talk to them. We provide that. But these guys know it is just a fantasy. But for a little while, it just makes them feel good and like a man again!!! We are their drug!!!
What do you like about your job? No commuting, I can wear my comfy clothes and no bra (I hate them!), each call is a boost to the ego, I meet some amazing people who allow me to be intimate with them with no strings attached, I can work when I want and I can say how much I cost, I am always reminded of the power of the poo-nanny, I get to talk about things that my friends tell me I talk too much about and get paid for it,and I love being shocked and shocking others. (My biggest fetish of all)
What are some myths that you dislike with this job? Because we do this, it means we have no morals, spirituality or we think less of ourselves because we think we have to "resort" to such a "low-life" job. We are not seen as sex therapists. Just because the person on the other end is paying money, that means we'll do anything they want, becoming a "time slave." Many think that all callers hate women, are losers who can't get someone in the sack, or just want someone because they are lonely. Some guys just want their "oil changed" or a way to fulfill a fantasy without going out and actually doing it.
What do you think about the bad feedback you get from callers? Well, I charge a rudeness fee for anyone that hangs up on me, and if they don't pay, I block them. So, they use another member name and leave me bad feedback all the time, but if anyone reads the rest of my feedback, they will realize it is just disgruntled customers. They never say WHY I wasn't good, they just leave bad feedback. Screw 'em. I don't care about feedback and never ask for it, so I don't care whether they leave it or not. You can't win them all, and I'm not about to stress over some whiny jerk.
What is BDSM? So funny how many of us think that people know what BDSM is when many don't. BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. The subby (or BOTTOM) uses signals or tells the dom (TOP) beforehand. It takes a HUGE amount of trust to believe the dom will not take you to a place you are not comfortable with. Once you're tied up and helpless, you just gotta trust they don't overstep your boundaries. I used to be totally happy with just vanilla sex for the first 4 years I had sex. Then I discovered BDSM, and was totally drawn to it. I don't do it all the time, so I don't consider myself a lifestyler, but it is nice for a change of pace or to add variety. I especially like to play the Dom role with someone I've never had sex with and am going to for the first time. That's so much fun... cuz it totally throws guys for a loop!
Ever had another job in the Adult industry besides PSOing? I trained to be a domme for a while. I LOVED it! Now, for the love of BDSM, I guess you either like it or not. I hated the 8" heels (trying to whip the hell out of someone and balance on toothpicks is tuff!) I like to push myself to see how far I can take the pleasure or pain. I also like to whip a man's ass, taking out on him whatever anger I need to vent. Of course, when it really comes to BDSM, the domme is actually not in control, the subby is. A good domme only does what the subby likes and may "push" those limits, but if the subby is totally turned off and cutting the session short... well, the domme isn't in control anymore. It's all about the subby giving their entire trust that the domme isn't going to go over the limits. It is up to the subby to give that trust. Hope this makes sense. I was trained by the best..... Wicked Wanda!!!
Why are you a "Domme?" In my opinion, most of these guys like dominant women. Why? It's simple. The guys that call are usually "in charge" of their lives. They have many people under them in their careers. They like the change of having the rules put on them. I have a hard time with verbal humiliation, though. Either I'm too respectful or too harsh. I also always get submissive boyfriends (in the bedroom), so it comes natural, but the humiliation aspect doesn't.
Do you let your subs/callers call other Dommes/girls? I am not going to push myself on anyone. I'm not going to get all freaked out if my caller talks to someone else. Jeez, everyone needs variety, right? As for the Dommes, if they are really Dommes, then they are confident enough in themselves to not step on other Dommes' toes. It's ridiculous and shows their own vulnerability when you can push their buttons, and once you know their weakness, well, the gig is up. Being a whiny, cry baby as a Domme will only manipulate subbies, not another Domme.
Do you recommend someone becoming a professional Dominatrix? That is a very serious decision to make. I have been trained as a domme, and I do NOT recommend starting just on "practicing" if you have not had a real domme train you. Why? First, you must do a session as a submissive, so you know exactly what they go through. You can cause MAJOR injury if you hit the wrong places. Whips are very hard to control. You must know when to stop at all times. It is an EXTREMELY thin line to balance. Yeah, getting $600 to let a man sit in a cage for two hours or letting him clean your house in a french maid's outfit is easy, but there is a TON more to it than that. I had a ball doing it, but even with a flogger, I had the subby say the code word for "too much." If I can get that off an easy, sensual flogger, how easy do you think it is to cause injury with a whip or cane? If you hit too high on a swing to the booty, you can cause kidney damage. Cock and ball torture is even harder. And are you ready to squat over a man's mouth and poop? Are you ready to see a man's cock turn purple and know when enough is enough? Also, the second you have sexual relations at all, you can be taken in for prostitution. Just know all the facts before making such a huge decision. It can be more fun, but it can become horrifying in seconds. I've just had friends that wanted to play with my domme toys and they would always take it too extreme and end up really hurting the guy! The reason that I suggest being a sub for one session is so that you can know exactly how a sub would feel. You'd understand that amount of trust that it takes to be tied up and having someone else with a weapon in their hand! It also is an amazing feeling to be whipped where the hair sticks up on your ass from the goosebumps and then have a silk glove rubbed on that area. I just think it's a good idea to do it once.
Would you consider yourself more dominant or submissive in real life? In real life, I am more dominant. I grew up with a feminist mother who taught me not to rely on a man for anything because they are stupid and will always let you down. I always attract the submissive guys, but I also get very frustrated with men who always want me to tell them what to do. I guess it's because I have such a dominant and powerful personality in real life. I like the fact of being submissive sometimes because it's more unpredictable and I like relinquishing that power in at least one aspect of my life. However, I only become submissive with my boyfriends, not callers.

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My Virgin Post

2005-07-21T21:27:00.000-04:00

Well, I took the advice of some other girls and decided to start a little diary about myself. What's my job? Well, I teach men how to make love to themselves. I guide them through different techniques and ways of touching themselves that they may have never experienced. Everyone has to admit that masturbation can get old sometimes, so it's nice to have someone guide you to add a little spice to your journey of self-love and self-exploration.

Me? Oh, I get my kicks from my lover. My sex life is totally fulfilling. However, I tend to keep my intimate moments private.

I am extremely sexual and independent. I love being spoiled. Of course, I always have been with men in my life, but guys on the phone seem to want someone to take their money, and I'm not that kind of gal!
This weekend, I am going on vacation, so I won't be available for my callers, but I should be back on Tuesday to hear plenty of men, moaning in my ear! Yummm....

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